Guide and Discipline

When we see our children for the first time,

that small and delicate baby, we never would

imagine that we would need to be firm and correct

him\her. It’s hard to imagine that, but in a short time

we realize that our children are full of emotions,

thoughts, actions, and they are firm with that.

So one of our roles as their parents is to guide

their emotions, and discipline when necessary. 

Dr. Steinberg taught a sequence that can be very helpful to deal with a contradictory situation. When your child wants to do something different from you, or when they already did it. Take a look:

1. identify the problem

2. discuss the impact it has on those involved

3. discuss an alternative

4. implement consequences (punishment)

5. explain future expectations.

 

In order for this advice to work, you have to remember to control your own emotions. You are teaching  your child to control his\her own emotions, and they will emulate what they see you doing. One powerful example of that is what Steve R. Covey covered in his video Green and Clean:

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Understanding is tied with guidance and discipline. Understand each stage of development, and most

importantly understand your own child temperament. Have in mind that your child\adolescent is unique.

The more time we spend with them, the more we understand them.  So take advantage of your time, and

connect with your children. They will grow a sense of respect for you, and it’s expected that you will not

spend too much time disciplining your child (Arbinger, 2015). 

References:

Arbinger Institute. (2015). The anatomy of peace: Resolving the heart of conflict.

Steinberg, L. (2004). The 10 basic principles of good parenting. New York, N.Y.: Simon & Schuster.